This Is What It Means When I Say I Want Attention (Because I’m Not Actually Clingy)

When I tell you that I need attention, I don’t mean I need you to spend every second with me. I don’t mean that I need you to sleep over my house every single night and answer my messages two seconds after I send them. 

When I tell you I need attention, I mean that I want you to be present. When you’re with me, I don’t want you staring down at your phone to answer emails or send another snap. I don’t want any distractions. I want you to look me in the eyes, hold my hand, and act like I’m the only thing you care about in that moment.

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I want you to take time out of your day to talk to me. It doesn’t have to be hours. It can be a few minutes. As long as it takes to send a text telling me you think about me, or goodnight, or goodmorning. 

squeeze my hand tight. press your lips against my forehead before you leave again.

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I don’t want to remind you to ask me about my day. I want you to do it on your own. I want it to be your idea. I want you to want to treat me right. 

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I want you to reach out to me, to make the first move, to initiate conversations and ask questions. 

I want you to call me out of the blue, just so you can hear my voice. 

I want you to ask me about my day and listen closely as I talk. I want more than our bodies to connect — I want our minds to connect.

When I tell you that I need attention, I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing you to hang out with me. I don’t want to feel like I’m bothering you by texting you and inviting you over.

I want it to be clear that you’re happy to spend some time with me, that you’re happy to have me in your life.

When I tell you that I need attention, 

I don’t mean that I want you to drop everything you’re doing in order to spoil me. i am spoil yes, but i cared about you and i want you happy.

I just mean that I want to see you soon, I want to hold you, I want to spend quality time with you — and I hope that you want that, too.

I treat you like a king, so you better act man up and treat me as a Queen.

I’m not clingy. I’m not desperate. But I do know what I deserve.