10 Mistakes Libras Make In Relationships And How To Avoid Them

1. Saying Yes When You Mean No

Blessed with the ability to see the other side of an argument and knowing just what to say to smooth things over, Libras are natural born diplomats. However, as a sign whose least favorite thing to do is to argue (see Aries for that), your smiles can quickly turn into frowns when you fail to express your true feelings about a matter. Instead, when you’re feeling the pressure to avoid conflict in an attempt to keep everyone happy, put your negotiating skills to work and let your partner know where you stand. Even if speaking up for yourself initially feels uncomfortable, you’ll be reminding yourself (and your mate) you’re nobody’s doormat. How sexy is that?

2. Buying Love And Affection

Libra’s biggest challenge (and reward) being mutually beneficial relationships, the Libra need to be valued, respected, and seen as an equal can make them prone to overly seeking the approval of others. This can translate into attempts at buying the affections or loyalty of a partner through lavish gifts and favors. While thoughtful gestures can be a hallmark of a sweet romance, overdoing it can leave you vulnerable to people who’ll only use you for what they can get. If you find yourself bending over backwards to get into someone else’s good graces, stop for a moment and consider why their approval of you is so necessary. Usually you’ll find that it isn’t.

3. You Overthink Things

Many Libras are motivated to bring a sense of harmony and balance to everything they do. As a result, this can make for some rather long and drawn out decision making. Libras want to make sure that anything they invest their time in, fits their high ideals (i.e. champagne wishes and caviar dreams.) Even the most epic of Libra romances have suffered because a Libra waited too long to make up their mind about their beloved. However, all is not lost. Welcome a bit of risk-taking and instead engage your notably curious mind to explore, learn, and try something new. Reevaluating your dating standards can also help.

4. It’s Too Hard For You To Be Single

Let’s face it, romance can be addictive—especially for a sign ruled by Venus, the Roman Goddess of Love. But when it becomes so addictive that you have a hard time functioning as a whole and complete individual whether you’re in a relationship or not, then you’ve stepped into the role of a Needy Nancy. Speaking from experience, I can tell you it’s not a role you want to take on. You want to know why? Because being a Needy Nancy will have you dating a serial cheater and convincing yourself that it’s love. It’s desperate and shows a major lack of self-confidence; which is so un-Venus like. If you find yourself rushing into a relationship that demeans or devalues you, honor your badass instead.

5. Dating Has Become A Little Too…Shallow Hal

Yes, dear Libra even you, as sweet and as gracious as you are, can sometimes fall victim to your own hype. This means making the mistake of basing your self-worth on external attributes or possessions, believing that a partner should be happy with you just because you’re pretty, affluent, etc. While these things are by no means bad, they shouldn’t absolve you from doing the work it takes to become a good person and a partner. Nor should looks and material worth prevent you from seeing that the super cutie you keep falling for is nothing more than a narcissist. Before you lose your cool over the next hot body that crosses your path, take a minute to assess their non-physical qualities. If you find them lacking, write down what you do want, then hold yourself (and anyone else) to that standard.

6. Heavy Flirting Outside of A Committed Relationship

Put any Libra alone in a crowded room and they will not only have made a friend of everyone, they will probably will have found their next romance too. How could this go wrong? When a Libra engages their super-powered flirting to boost their ego at the expense of a committed partnership. Rather than engage in a conflict or break things off with their significant other, they resort to heavy flirting or emotional cheating. So as a Libra, how can you avoid this? Communicate with your loved one, recognize when it’s time to end a relationship, and when necessary do something healthy/nice for yourself as a confidence booster.

7. Being Too Judgy

Libras hold themselves to a rather high standard and believe that others should too, especially when it comes to someone they’re interested in. When this doesn’t happen Libras can be all too ready to dole out advice in an effort to help correct the issue. I had a Libra boss who once gave all of us on staff copies of 7 Habits of Highly Effective People as holiday gifts. Can you guess if these gifts were well received? Unfortunately, this habit of giving unsolicited advice has earned Libra an unflattering reputation as being bossy, critical, and pretentious. Ouch. Though in Libra’s defense the intent is often well-meaning. However, the next time you’re tempted to find fault with someone you’re dating or who would otherwise be a good match, think about the gifts and unique perspective this person brings to the table; then make these your focus.

8. Being Unable To Keep Your Word

Have you ever made plans with someone and forgot all about them? Or have you ever promised your partner you would do something only for them to be pissed at you because what you said you would do wasn’t? For many a Libra the desire to always look good in the eyes of others can make them prone to consistently promising things they either cannot or don’t want to deliver. As a Libra, your inclination towards cooperation is often genuine but when you fail to honor your word it doesn’t seem like it. Instead of rushing to agree to someone’s request or offering up help, think about 1) whether you are in a position to follow through on it and 2) if it’s something you really want to do.

9. You Have Trouble Establishing a Healthy Routine

Libra is an Air sign, which means that they often need a bevy of projects, interests, and passions to keep them stimulated. The danger of this though, is taking on too many interests and projects that either never get completed or fall totally by the wayside. If you’re dating someone who values preparedness, structure, and long term planning this can be frustrating for the two of you. However, as your mission is to maintain balance in and out of a relationship, you can keep your equilibrium by better prioritizing your day to day. Getting things done in smaller increments, saying no to time-wasters, and keeping a schedule are ways to help you become more grounded and reliable. If all else fails, you can always go to a Capricorn for help!

10. Emotions Make You Crazy

Libras pride themselves on their sharp intellect and logic. These traits allow for them to keep cool heads in the midst of a chaotic situation while everyone else hits a meltdown. This approach is great in the boardroom. In the bedroom though, not so much. Keep in mind though, there are people who appreciate, and even prefer an even-tempered lover—and that’s great. Yet if you’re a more sensitive sign like a Pisces or a Scorpio, a Libra’s rational approach to more “messy” emotions like sadness or anger can be off-putting. Still, dear Libra, this doesn’t mean you should stew in someone else’s negative emotions, it just means not every emotion can be analyzed or rationalized away. Sometimes all a person needs is for you to do is to simply listen.

when libra finally grow and learned her lesson, she/he'll be the perfect long lasting friends/partner ever.

She's not here for Flings... she's looking for her person.

She has never been interested in one-night stands or casual relationships. She doesn’t want to jump from one relationship to the next either. She wants something real. Something that will last years, decades, an eternity.

That is why she comes across as picky. She is careful about who she dates because she does not want to waste her time. She has standards and sticks to them.

She isn’t looking to have fun for now. She is searching for her person.

She wants someone who will stay up until 2 AM, talking. Someone who will set plans months in advance. Someone who will brag about how she is their girlfriend and they couldn’t ask for anyone better.

It might seem like she’s looking for a lot — but she only has high expectations because she has a high self-worth now. 

She is not going to agree to a date with a player. She is not going to get into a relationship with someone she cannot count on to stay loyal, someone who she only imagines dating for a month before it all falls apart.

Flings seem pointless to her. 

She is interested in something long-term.

If she agrees to date you, it’s because she sees potential in you. She thinks you will last more than a month. More than a year. 

She's become good at reading people. She can tell pretty quickly whether you are going to be someone who increases her happiness or diminishes it. She will be able to guess what kind of impact you will have on her world.

She would rather stay single than enter a relationship with the wrong person. She wants to be available in case the right person comes along. 

Whenever she meets someone new, she keeps her eyes open. Once she spots a red flag, she bounces. She knows she can do better. In her mind, it’s better to walk away early than to waste weeks with a person who is eventually going to give her a reason to leave anyway.

She only gets excited about people who show her they are willing to put in effort. People who are genuinly interested in her and willing to pursue her.

If someone gives her enough reasons to stick around, then she is going to give them a fighting chance. She is going to have faith in them. She is going to get attached and won’t want to let go.

That’s why she takes breakups so hard. She never dates anyone who she assumes will end up hurting her. Whenever she’s in a relationship, she thinks this is it, this is her person. When she finds out she was wrong, it’s difficult to take. She doesn’t know how to handle the disappointment.

She only dates people who have strong potential so if she gives you a chance, don’t blow it. Show her she has made the right choice. 

Dear Past.. I Have a Purpose And It Doesn’t Include You anymore.

I was not born to be hurt this badly. I was not born to be thrown around like a ball, destroyed by hands that scraped their nails on my skin. Ripped. And destroyed. I was not born to be ruined by the eyes that I fell for the deepest, played with by the heart that I always thought to be mine already. 

i was born to be Queen.

 I was not born to become anybody’s fool, to be taken advantage of, time and time again until I became nothing more than a body to be used. I was not born to serve as you wish of me.

I was not born to be a mere player. With no control. I was not born to play the game I was always destined to lose, with a part of my life taken every round for your entertainment. I was not born to follow whatever you ask me to, watching as my dignity takes itself away from me because I am undeserving.

I was not born to be pushed around like a lackey, with each of my step a shadow of yours. I was not born to be anything you asked me to be, wasting my life away under your hand.

I was born to be a leader, a person of my own right. I was born to make my own decisions, control my own life with my own hands. I was born to serve myself, to become the person I’ve always imagined myself to be.

Yes, I was born to be hurt, but not so repeatedly that I become used to it anymore. I was born to fight back, take what’s mine and claim my own territory. I was born to become an evidence of independence, a soldier that fought for my own beliefs and paradigms.

I was born to learn, grow up in my roots and not in the shelter of others. I was born to fly, to soar as high as I want to. I was born to step on the universe, shaking the ground of the land I step on because I am the king.

I was born to be a person who is human and sane. I was born to feel what I want to feel. I was born to decide. I was born to rise. Honey, I was never born for you.

I was born for me.

I Am Sick Of Being The ‘Nice Girl’

I am tired of letting others take advantage of my kindness. I am sick of getting my heart broken. I am done giving people the benefit of the doubt. I want to be the heartbreaker for a change.

Instead of giving out second and third chances to people who have already hurt me, I am going to walk away from them before they have the chance to hurt me again.

I am going to detach myself. I am going to stop keeping people around because we have history. I am going to start caring more about my own happiness than the comfort of the toxic people surrounding me.

If I am better off without someone in my world, then they will be removed without any guilt.

I am not going to feel guilty about expecting to be treated with respect.

I am not going to feel guilty about raising my standards after a lifetime of leaving them low.

I am not going to censor myself anymore. I am not going to be nice when I will only get kicked around in return. If someone wants respect from me, then they better give me respect.

I am no longer interested in one-sided relationships. I am not going to be there for you if you are never there for me. I am not going to accept your apologies if there is no meaning behind them. I am not going to expose myself to drama when I could choose to walk away.

You can call me a bitch for finally putting myself first. You can accuse me of overreacting. You can act like I am betraying some code of loyalty by walking away.

You can tell me I should have more faith in people — but I have spent my entire life trusting others. Assuming they are good deep down. And it has gotten me nowhere.

Second chances lead to a repeat in history. Blind trust leads to heartbreak.

I have been nice to people who have treated me like shit. I have given the benefit of the doubt to people who have proven they cannot be relied upon. I have let people remain inside of my world because I loved them, because my heart and my mind couldn’t agree on whether they were worth my time.

in my whole life. i like and care of few people, but i only ever really loved 2 of them. dragon and moon. and both lead me to the worst heartbreaking point because i give them to much, i settle for less and let my heart control all my judgment and makes me see what i want to see, not reality. today, this day, i make amends! WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN!

Now, I am going to stop listening to my heart because it has screwed me over one too many times. I am going to listen to my gut. I am going to listen to my common sense.

If you give me your kindness and respect, I will still be the nice girl around you. But if you cross me, I am not going to play nice anymore. I am not going to sit in silence while you talk down to me. I am going to fight back. I am going to put you in your place.

Worst of all, I am going to walk away. You will never see my face again. You will never make an apology strong enough to bring me back.

This is new and improved me.. and after years of years of my life. i will not write about how sad i am, but how strong i could be.

I AM INDEPENDENT WOMAN. BUT, I HATE BEING ALONE.

I consider myself an independent woman because I make my own money. I buy my own groceries. I wash my own clothes. I take care of the basics.

I am a responsible twenty-something who doesn’t need anyone’s help. I can take care of myself.

That’s why I feel like a complete hypocrite when I admit that I hate being alone.

I’m not talking about brief bursts of solitude. I like working alone. I like having peace and quiet as I’m reading a book. I like my alone time after a long day.

But I don’t want to be alone too much. I don’t want to be alone all of the time. 

Being surrounded by a large group of people zaps my energy since I consider myself to category of "people who hate people", but being around one person who makes me feel at home sounds like heaven.

I just want one person who will make me feel safe when I’m wrapped in their arms. One person who will motivate me to try again when I feel like giving up. One person who will make me laugh during the darkest days of my life.

Even though I’m an independent woman who doesn’t need a relationship to feel fulfilled, the truth is that I don’t want to fall asleep alone. I want someone beside me, holding me tight, comforting me when I jolt awake from nightmares. and better, someone who stop my nightmares at all.. somone who when i woke up in the night, almost everynight, and see him next to me, then i easily back to sleep.

I don’t want to eat alone every single morning. I want someone sitting at the other side of the table, talking to me about how work went yesterday and how delicious the food tastes. making me the bread with a lot of salty butter. I want someone to fill the silence so I don’t go crazy listening to my own thoughts.

Even though I can technically take care of myself, I secretly don’t want to live alone. I want someone to greet me when I walk through the door, someone to watch TV alongside, someone who will listen when I babble about my stressful day. someone who geniuly asked How was my day. since no one ever really care and done that.

I hate being alone because it gives me too much time to think. My brain goes into overdrive, stressing about things that haven’t even happened yet. The more time I have to myself, the more time I have to overanalyze.

I hate being alone because it makes me wonder whether it’s always going to be this way. Whether I am destined to stay single. Whether I am ultimately unlovable.

Even though I consider myself an independent woman, there is a part of me that is dying for companionship. I want someone who is there for me no matter what happens that day. Someone who will make sure my nights are never lonely. someone to talk to and makes my thought are bareable. Someone who will give me space when I need it, but will cuddle me when I’m feeling affectionate.

I know that I don’t need a relationship to survive, but I’m not embarrassed to admit that’s what I want. I’m not afraid to say I secretly hate being alone.

16 Sign of potential DATE. not less. others go to Friendzone, definitely!

1. He shows up on time. He never leaves you waiting. If he says he’s going to meet you for dinner at 7:00, then he’ll be there at 7:00. Maybe even a few minutes earlier.

2. He cares about the things you care about. If something is important to you, then it’s important to him. He wants to hear all about it. He wants to share the excitement with you.

3. He’ll go out of his way for you. If your car breaks down, he’ll drive miles to pick you up. If you’re crying in your bedroom, he’ll do the same. Whenever you need him, he’ll be there. No questions asked.

4. He plans dates too sometimes. He doesn’t expect you to do all of the work in the relationship. He comes up with date ideas, too. He can be romantic, too.

5. He helps you fix things. If you have a problem, he doesn’t nod his head and say, ‘that sucks.’ He tries to help you find a solution. He cares about your happiness even more than you do.

6. if Possible He brings you wherever he goes. Barbecues. Festival, hanging out with a friend sometimes, Family dinners. High school reunions. he dont shy you away.

7. He shows you off. He introduces you to his friends, his parents, his coworkers. He brags about you every chance he gets. He wants the world to know that you’re an item. not hiding you or forbid you from tag his picture.

8. He makes plans for the future. He doesn’t ask to see you at the last second. He sets plans for Friday on Monday. He thinks ahead.

9. He dries your tears. He isn’t the one causing them. He’s the one holding you close and calming you down. He always does whatever it takes to see you smile again.

10. He sets aside time to see you. He admits that he misses you — and he acts on it. He clears his schedule so he can spend as much time with you as possible.

11. He puts in effort during sex. He’s not the only one enjoying the moment. He makes sure that you get something out of it, too.

12. He makes decisions with you. He never surprises you with big purchases. Whenever he has a life changing choice to make, he has a discussion with you about it, because you’re a team.

13. He remembers the little things. Your favorite flowers. Your cousins’ names.. He has them all memorized.

14. He’s loyal. His Tinder has been deleted. His exes are part of his past. He never flirts with any other girls, because he only wants one.

15. He texts back quickly everytime he has chance. He doesn’t play any games. When you message him, he messages back as soon as he gets the opportunity. he care about how was your day.

16. The relationship doesn’t feel one-sided. For the first time, you don’t feel like you’re the one putting in all the work. Like you’re the one that cares more. Everything feels equal. It feels right. 

This Is What It Means When I Say I Want Attention (Because I’m Not Actually Clingy)

When I tell you that I need attention, I don’t mean I need you to spend every second with me. I don’t mean that I need you to sleep over my house every single night and answer my messages two seconds after I send them. 

When I tell you I need attention, I mean that I want you to be present. When you’re with me, I don’t want you staring down at your phone to answer emails or send another snap. I don’t want any distractions. I want you to look me in the eyes, hold my hand, and act like I’m the only thing you care about in that moment.

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I want you to take time out of your day to talk to me. It doesn’t have to be hours. It can be a few minutes. As long as it takes to send a text telling me you think about me, or goodnight, or goodmorning. 

squeeze my hand tight. press your lips against my forehead before you leave again.

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I don’t want to remind you to ask me about my day. I want you to do it on your own. I want it to be your idea. I want you to want to treat me right. 

When I tell you that I need attention, I mean that I want you to reach out to me, to make the first move, to initiate conversations and ask questions. 

I want you to call me out of the blue, just so you can hear my voice. 

I want you to ask me about my day and listen closely as I talk. I want more than our bodies to connect — I want our minds to connect.

When I tell you that I need attention, I don’t want to feel like I’m forcing you to hang out with me. I don’t want to feel like I’m bothering you by texting you and inviting you over.

I want it to be clear that you’re happy to spend some time with me, that you’re happy to have me in your life.

When I tell you that I need attention, 

I don’t mean that I want you to drop everything you’re doing in order to spoil me. i am spoil yes, but i cared about you and i want you happy.

I just mean that I want to see you soon, I want to hold you, I want to spend quality time with you — and I hope that you want that, too.

I treat you like a king, so you better act man up and treat me as a Queen.

I’m not clingy. I’m not desperate. But I do know what I deserve. 

25 Reminders For Girls Just Getting Out Of Almost Relationships!

1. Dealing with the end of an almost relationship can be just as scarring as getting dumped by a boyfriend you have been seeing for years. The amount of time you spent together doesn’t matter. The feelings you had matter. 

2. Don’t feel embarrassed about mourning a relationship that wasn’t official. You are allowed to be upset about what happened. You are allowed to admit you are in pain.

3. You can love someone you never dated. You can care about someone you never dated. You can have your heart shattered by someone you never dated.

4. You might not get closure and that is okay. 

5. Just because you two didn’t officially get together doesn’t mean that the moments you shared were meaningless. 

6. Instead of getting upset that the future you pictured inside of your head never happened, be thankful for the moments you shared and the lessons he taught you.

7. Don’t you dare start doubting your worth now that he’s gone. You are still the same person you were yesterday when you thought he was into you. 

8. You didn’t completely misread the situation. His mixed signals meant he liked you — he just didn’t like you enough. 

9. You deserve someone who is there all of the time, not sometimes. 

10. You deserve a forever love, not a temporary love.

11. There are other boys out there who will see your value from the start. 

12. Those boys will jump at the chance to become your boyfriend. You won’t have to wait for them to be ready for a relationship or convince them you are worthy of their time. 

13. Your heart is stronger than you think. It can heal itself even when you swear it is broken beyond repair.

14. You are not stupid for missing him. He is stupid for leaving you. because he just left without knowing your worth, without even having a fighting changes.  

15. Not every relationship is going to end like this. Not every guy is going to abandon you after few dates. 

16. It’s actually a good thing this relationship is over because now there is room in your life for a better one. 

17. You can be happy without him — and you are going to be soon. But it’s okay if you’re sad right now. It’s normal. 

18. You are allowed to miss him. You are allowed to wish things ended differently. 

19. Don’t torture yourself by replaying old memories in your head over and over again, trying to figure out where things went wrong. You aren’t going to magically find answers. You are only going to drive yourself crazy. just accept that it was there. but it's time to move forward.

20. Delete your pictures of him. Delete his number. Delete him from social media. Give yourself a break from him so you can stop thinking about him.

21. Don’t let yourself believe there is a chance he’s coming back. he WILL NOT. sorry.

22. Accept that he is gone. Accept that it is for the best. 

23. Remember you are going to get over him eventually, even if it feels like this heartbreak will last forever

24. One day, you will find someone who makes you forget he even existed in the first place. 

25. Almost relationships suck. You aren’t the only one who thinks so. i had been there, i cried, i survived, i move on, i passed through it, You aren’t the first person to have your heart broken by someone you never even dated. Trust me, it is better he walked away, rather than you wasting your time for him.

EVERYTHING WRONG WITH MODERN DATING! I am TIRED of Temporary People.

I am tired of texting back and forth for weeks and never meeting up in person.

I am tired of first dates that never lead to seconds.

I am tired of acting as someone’s almost and never taking the next step into a relationship.

I am tired of temporary love beginning and ending in a flash.

I am not interested in being a one-night stand. A friend with benefits. A casual hookup.

 I want to build something that has the ability to last.

I want to find someone who refuses to run away, even when things get hard. Someone who will stick it out through the bad times so we can get back to the good times.

I don’t want to waste my time with someone for weeks, maybe even months, if they aren’t interested in the same future as I have been imagining. I don’t want to grow attached to someone and realize at the last second they aren’t looking for anything serious.

I am not searching for temporary.

Modern dating has exhausted me, because it seems like everywhere I turn, others are only looking to have fun. To lose themselves in the moment without worrying about what is going to come next. Childish mindgame. 

Meanwhile, I am searching for someone who has the potential to become more than a fling. Someone I want around for more than one night. Someone I can imagine keeping around for years to come.

I don’t want to invite someone into my bedroom and kick them out once the sun rises. I don’t want to get to know them halfway. I want to see every side of them — and I want them to want me to see it.

I want them to be as enthusiastic about me as I am about them. I don’t want to be the one who cares more. I don’t want to be holding onto our relationship by a hair while they’re struggling to set themselves free. I want someone who is on the same page as me.

I want someone who is going to tell their friends about me. not hiding me. someone that proud of me and tag my pictures on their social media, not someone that said "Please dont tag me" as if i am not exist.

I am sick of temporary love. I don’t want someone attractive to text until someone better comes along. I don’t want to keep swapping out people when I grow bored.

I want One person. A person who means more to me than all the others. A person who is worth settling down with, because they give me as much as I give them, both spiritually and emotionally. Someone who means it when they say they are going to stay. 

The Worst Relationship Of Your Life Will Be With Someone Who Does These 13 Things

1. Never date someone who acts sketchy AF. Someone who hides their phone from your view. Someone who never gives you a straight answer when you ask a question. Someone who refuses to put a label on your relationship even though you assumed you were already dating.

2. Never date someone who makes you love yourself less. Someone who makes you feel unintelligent. Someone who makes you feel unattractive. Someone who makes you feel unworthy of their affection.

3. Never date someone who makes you chase them. Someone who refuses to send the first text. Someone who waits for you to plan every date and lead every conversation. Someone who acts lazy because they know you will pick up the slack.

4. Never date someone who chooses when to treat you well. Someone who will spoil you for weeks and then ignore you for weeks. Someone who changes their tune every few days. Someone who only shows you respect sometimes.

5. Never date someone who only cares about themselves. Someone who thinks they are always right. Someone who refuses to compromise with you or apologize to you. Someone who has trouble taking responsibility for their own actions.

6. Never date someone without a conscience. Someone who ignores your texts without feeling bad about it. Someone who lies to your face without feeling guilty about it. Someone who hurts you without losing sleep over it.

7. Never date someone who makes you feel uncomfortable. Someone who acts superior to you. Someone who you have to walk on eggshells around to avoid an argument. Someone who peer pressures you into drinking or having sex when you said no the first time.

8. Never date someone who makes you feel guilty over your emotions. Someone who calls you overemotional whenever you get upset. Someone who asks if you’re on your period every time you express your feelings. Someone who finds a way to turn every situation around so that theyare the victim and they are the one who should be upset.

9. Never date someone who expects you to choose them over everything else.Someone who expects you to cancel plans with friends to see them. Someone who expects you to quit your job to spend more time with them. Someone who expects you to give up everything that makes you you because they feel like they are the only thing that should be causing you happiness.

10. Never date someone who keeps secrets from you. Someone who bottles their emotions up inside. Someone who pretends they’re fine when they’re clearly not. Someone who hides pieces of themselves from you, even though you’re the one person they should feel comfortable around.

11. Never date someone who gives you orders. Someone who tells you which clothes you are allowed to wear and which friends you are allowed to text. Someone who makes you get permission from them before leaving the house. Someone who acts overbearing and overprotective.

12. Never date someone who takes their anger out on you. Someone who treats you like their punching bag after a stressful day of work. Someone who becomes violent when they don’t get their way. Someone who has scared you before because you weren’t sure what they were going to do next.

13. Never date someone who has shown you mean nothing to them. Someone who is okay with a one-sided relationship. Someone who lets you do all the work without lending a hand. Someone who takes from you but never gives back.

Letter to Male Gender... Revised.

Dear Male Gender,

First, I want to say that I really do love your gender. 
I have learned a lot about myself through relationships with some of you. 
Heaven and Hell. 
At the same time,  
I think you should know that some of your actions 
are really confusing the ladies of the world 
and causing a large amount of unnecessary pain.

so... This letter is my response to that. let’s get right into it.


#1
If you like a girl, just tell her! 
I get it, maybe you’re afraid of rejection, maybe you think she’s too good for you, 
maybe you don’t want to put yourself out there. But you know what? 
Without risk there is no reward. Admitting you like a girl doesn’t make you weak,
 it makes you confident and women love confidence.
And if you don’t like her, don’t waste her time. 
Don’t keep her around because it makes you feel good to have a woman who likes you, 
don’t keep her as placeholder until you find something you actually want. 
It’s just mean.


#2

 Check on her, you know, like daily... 
daily communication is vital for some girls and 
they wanted to know if you at least think about them.

it's not that you have to feed Needy girl. That's not what i mean.
 but checking on your girl is a sing that you care. 
asking how was her day going on. simply say Goodmorning and goodnight. 

i understand you are busy. then, you can TELL HER, 
"goodmorning, i will be busy a whole day and probably wont talk alot today, 
but i hope you have a good day". or  
"going to bed now, super busy all day, 
sorry to not keep in touch as much as i wanted to, goodnight"

The RIGHT GIRL for you will tottally understand you are busy but, 
doesn't mean you dont act as a RIGHT GUY 
by at least put a minute of your time to show that you remember her. 
this is will create healthy mutual feeling even when you are super busy!

#3
Please think twice before you say things, words have weight. 
Since you are the less verbal of the two genders, 
it’s understandable that words carry less weight for you. 
However, you should realize that words do matter to women.

Don't compare her with your ex or your past (unless she's asking),
 don't tell how good is your ex and or another girl, 
because sometimes we believe that we are not good enough.. 
Well not all the woman, but you know.. A view woman do. 

Don’t tell her you like her more than you’ve liked any other girl, 
or you couldn't  see yourself marrying someone like her unless you actually mean it 
because she will believe you, and when the truth is revealed, she will be hurt 
and her ability to trust men will be compromised. 

Have you ever dated a girl you really liked 
but couldn’t get her to trust you and open up? 
You tried to break through her tough exterior, but you just couldn’t. 
Maybe you genuinely liked her and were being real, but chances are 
the guy before you wasn’t and  now she doesn’t know what to believe.

Worst! Don't play with both words. 
Don't treat her like she is the one at one time, 
but say that you don't want to be to serious 
and you are not even sure where you both go, at the other time. 
Its confusing! And HURT.

#4

Don’t lie to her. 
I know sometimes you’re afraid of how a woman will react to certain things. 
I get it, I give advice for a living and sometimes 
I have to tell women things they don’t want to hear 
and have to brace myself for a not-so-pleasant response. 
I could placate them and lie, but that doesn’t do anyone any favors. 
Women are a lot more logical than you give them credit for. 
Does the truth hurt sometimes? Yes. 
But you know what hurts more? When a trust is broken. 
The scars left behind from deceit take much longer to heal 
than feeling momentarily upset by the truth. 
Be honest with her, she’s tougher than you think.

#5

For the love of all things holy, do not call her crazy. 
Women are more emotional by nature, 
and that’s what makes them so wonderful 
and gives them the other qualities you love so much, 
like how compassionate, empathetic, and nurturing they are. 
We are different from you and these differences are important, 
they are the reason two people can encourage each other to grow 
and be at their best in a healthy relationship.
 Don’t dismiss her emotions because you deem them illogical, 
or think she’s just  being a “typical girl,”
 or it must be “that time of the month.” 
Let her express herself and hear what she has to say, 
even if you don’t fully get it, 
because a lot of the time she has no idea where you’re coming from either!

#6

Call her, you know, on the phone- 
this is the MOST THINGS that i feel now generation has LOST it! 
There’s a funny thing about smartphones, 
they also have this feature (not only texting!!) 
where you can hit someone’s contact info 
and then somehow you’re able to hear their voice and talk, 
yeah talk!! like with full sentences, not abbreviations and emoticons. 

Fine, in this day and age it’s all about the texting, 
but a phone call is nice and unexpected 
and it shows you care and showing you care isn’t a bad thing! 
Surprising goodnight call will make her day more than heaven.

#7
If you are no longer interested in seeing a girl, 
please tell her instead of ghosting. 
Sure, in your mind you’ve realized that she’s not for you, that it would never work. 
And maybe you’ve convinced yourself she’s on the exact same page, 
so you see no reason to reach out and state the obvious. 
Well, in most cases she has not reached the same conclusion 
and is instead spending the majority of her day checking her phone to see if you’ve texted, 
and racking her brain trying to figure out what went wrong.

She’ll replay the last interaction, 
looking for anything she may have done wrong. 
She’ll come up with excuses for your behavior… 
he’s having a busy week…he doesn’t want to seem too eager…
he likes me so much and is afraid of these feelings so he’s backing off.

Her days will alternate between hope and despair. 
When it gets to be too much, she’ll probably send a friendly text your way, 
in the hopes that it will bring some level of clarity.  
When she does, you will probably respond in one of two ways, 
neither of which will help the situation. 
One, you’ll reply with something casual and friendly, 
giving her a false sense of hope that you’re still interested and everything is fine.
 More often, you’ll ignore her text. 

Some women,
 the ones who can’t see beyond a thick cloud of denial,
 may think you lost your phone or broke it or there’s a service disruption. 
The others will realize that you’ve “ghosted” 
and will feel extremely hurt and confused.

They won’t know what caused your sudden shift 
and this confusion will morph into self-doubt. 
When the next guy comes along, she’ll be more guarded, more cautious, 
she’ll be on the lookout for bad signs, 
she won’t be able to trust herself or her judgement. 
I mean, she let herself like you, and you made it seem like you really liked her back, 
but obviously that wasn’t the case 
and now she won’t be able to stop the self-doubt from creeping in. 
She won’t be able to enjoy the next relationship, she won’t feel hope and calm, 
she’ll be anxious and on edge.

Yes, I know how uncomfortable the breakup conversation can be, 
it sucks for both people. 
But man up and get over your fear of looking like the bad guy 
because what you’re doing makes you an even worse guy.
If you aren’t interested anymore, tell her. 
Even if it’s only been a few dates, call her up, 
tell her you think she’s a great girl but you don’t think it will work out. 
Will she be hurt? Yes, rejection always hurts. 
But you will be doing her a big favor, whether she realizes it or not.

I’m sure you have had experiences with women 
where you weren’t quite sure how she felt. 
You would text her and she would respond in a pleasant, friendly manner. 
Maybe she’d agree to go out on dates, 
but deep inside you didn’t really know how she felt. 
You may have gotten angry or thought she was a tease. 
In the end it turns out you were right, she wasn’t that into you.
 But she strung you along for weeks and you’re pissed. 
I think you’d agree that it would have been much better 
had she just let you know the ugly truth as soon as it was clear to her.

Point is.. 
Do not play with signal..
 Cos sometimes woman's heart works more then their brain. 
We admit it, and please do understand , 
as we are from different planets.