50/50

Never date someone who expects you to put in all of the efforts. You shouldn’t be the person running around, planning dates and initiating texts. Your relationship should not be one-sided, because you will burn yourself out.

sometimes you put a lot of effort and fight just to show your love but seems like you are never be good enough. but you are!
sometimes you think you dont worth a flowers or a spontaneous cuddles, but doesn't mean you don't deserve one.
you deserve someone who plan a dates
take you to dances
or buy you ice cream
someone who asks about your day
someone who love you as much as you do.
You deserves someone who never hide you, and proud of you.


Never date someone who puts more effort into the relationship either. You don’t want to be the one who loves less, the one who takes your person for granted. You don’t want to become spoiled and stop carrying your weight because you are dating someone who would never leave you, not even if you neglected them. 

You don’t want to turn into the kind of person you have always tried to keep away from. someone who took you for granted.

You should take turns initiating sex and panning dates. You should split responsibilities down the middle, as evenly as you can, so no one feels like they are getting ripped off or one-sided.

You have to give what you want to get. You have to keep the playing field even. Never make someone feel they are less worth. Just because you know they will love you anyway, doesn't mean you stop put your effort. 

Of course, there will be days when you have your bad days and your person took a step back and understand. there will be the day when your person don't know how to feel and you offer them hug to calm their mind.

You do not have to keep things 50/50 all the time. That is impossible. Besides, keeping score will do your relationship more harm than good. You don’t want to keep track of every nice thing you have done for your person because you feel like you are owed something in return. You should be doing nice things because you love them, not because you are hoping they will repay you.

but Never put your person in the position when they think they need to keep tryinng to please you, or make them feel they worth less because you stop trying. 

As long as you are both trying, as long as you are both doing your best, as long as you are both putting in an effort to keep your relationship strong, then you have what it takes to last