When you date someone faithful

When you date someone faithful, someone who would never dream of breaking his promises to you, you have a hard time coping with your trust issues. You aren’t sure how to handle it when the fears come creeping back inside because deep down you know he wouldn’t do anything to hurt you.

There haven’t been any red flags. He has been treating you right since day one. He never looks at another girl for too long. He never comments on how you could look better. He loves you the way you are. He claims you are the most beautiful woman in the world and you believe him, you can tell he is speaking from the heart.

But you have been hurt in the past so you are still skeptical even though you have absolutely no reason to be. You read too deeply into every move he makes because you have heard stories of cheaters and read articles about them and were probably even cheated on yourself before. You know the signs to watch out for so you keep your eyes open at all times.

The worst case scenario plays out in your mind, taunting you. you’re sorry and it’s stupid but you are terrified of being abandoned again.

the scenarios go again... He might try to calm you down at first, to reassure you that he hasn’t done anything to hurt you, but only the first few times. He has already been doing everything he can and you still don’t trust him. He feels powerless. He feels like he is being ignored.

When you date a good guy but are still scared of getting left on, you know you are probably only being paranoid. You know that you should push your fears to the back of your mind — but you push yourself away from your person instead.

You tell yourself that if you don’t care about him, then you cannot get hurt by him. You erect a wall to protect your heart because you could not even imagine how much pain you would experience if you allowed yourself to trust him, to love him, to dedicate yourself to him and he hurt you anyway.

In the end, you end up sabotaging a perfectly good relationship because you cannot accept the idea that someone loves you and only you.